Thoughts | A Letter To Well Meaning White Folks Everywhere
I wrote about white supremacy and the confederacy being terrorism 2 years ago, and had a well meaning white person tell me that I was over-exaggerating. That, if anything, both groups were only "uneducated white men" who "don't necessarily pose a threat to anyone."
I didn't argue. I just let it go, because I knew that he wasn't able to identify with my experience. Though a gay male, by his statements I knew that white supremacy and the confederacy had never terrorized his livelihood or his family's livelihood as they had done mine for years.
Today, that same well meaning white person is completely taken aback by the Charlottesville riot, and wants to know what he can do to help put an end to racism and domestic terrorism.
Well, you well meaning white person, maybe start by not telling a person of color that their experience is anything but "real" because you've never personally felt the effects.
Other than that, I'm all out of advice. I've been writing about the black experience for years now, and you chose not to listen — not even just to me, but to the very historical patterns and truths of the country you call "home." You chose to remain ignorant. You chose to turn a blind eye. You chose to stay silent.
Dear other well meaning white people searching for answers or next steps,
I can't speak for all black people, but I can speak for myself... And it's a total slap in the face when asked about what YOU can NOW do to put a stop to the bullshit we've been trying to get you to see for decades.
You're finally "woke," so that's a great starting place. But, I refuse to waste time curating lists upon lists of steps for YOU to follow to put an end to something that your ancestors started, and, by basking in your privilege, YOU kept thriving. This is YOUR time to take some fucking initiative.
Besides not discounting another marginalized group's experience because "it's never happened to you," or making sure your trash ass relatives aren't saying racist ass shit, or acting on racist ass impulses, I honestly don't have any other advice to give.
In the meantime, I'll continue to write about the black experience, share cool shit that I'm reading or watching, and will raise my son to be a decent human being. But, all of the heavy lifting is on you.
Best of luck,